Intro to Consensual Non-Monogamy

If you’re wondering what consensual non-monogamy is, start here.

DISCLAIMERS:

If you’ve been practicing some form of consensual non-monogamy for more than six months, then this video is not for you (this will be too entry-level, but be my guest and watch if you’d like a refresher).

If you’ve been practicing some form of non-consensual non-monogamy, then this video is absolutely for you, and you need to watch this to be kindly and respectfully yet dutifully reminded of why consent is so fucking important for ethical relating to yourself and other humans.

If you’re judgmental of how other people do life and live their relationships, then go on Reddit and bitch about me there. Have your space and feel free to unfollow, but let’s be respectful of this space for individuals who are genuinely interested in supporting themselves and their relationships.

Consensual non-monogamy is a fancy term for essentially saying, “hey, I’m in an intimate relationship with more than one person.”

Yes, the definition of consensual non-monogamy is intentionally vague as it's defined to be inclusive of a variety of different types of relationship dynamics. This is a great resource for some examples of different types of consensual non-monogamy.

Here in this video, I focus on the very first word of the consensual non-monogamy phrase — consensual.

Before we can even begin to practice exploring various relationship types, structures, etc. (especially if we are taking an existing relationship and looking to open it up to others or bringing others into it), every single person has to be on-board and giving the “green light.”

There are so many relationships I have seen where the parties involved are just cheating on each other, thinking they are practicing ethical non-monogamy when, in fact, they’ve never once discussed with one another their wants, desires, and interests in exploring a different relationship structure.

As I mentioned in the video, this is merely a jumping off point into a conversational topics that’s as big as the ocean, so if you’re leaving this video with more questions than answers, that’s a good sign.

Let me know what questions you do have, and know that I’m here to support you in the process of creating authentic relationships that are true to you and your partner(s).

All my love,
Kevin